Children learn more from what we are than what we teach.
Children these days know their way to get their wishes
fulfilled by hook or crook, figuring out one
or other way to get their demands satisfied.
They restore misbehavior or throw bad attitude
towards things and people around them and mostly towards their parents because they seem to know that
after making umpteen efforts of blackmailing in public and leaving us powerless, "the helpless parents" will have to say “yes” in the end.
But is this the right approach to handle our stubborn children
who keeps blackmailing us? Have we ever thought of the consequences by
responding to our children’s unending demands by always backing down?
It’s time to think it over, because by giving into it, we are sending a wrong message to our children. If “Blackmailing,
yelling, throwing tantrums always works to get things their way” we are actually strengthen their attitude to continue misbehaving without taking
ethical rules and manners in consideration.
Being a
parent, it’s our duty to understand why our children uses tools such as blackmail
or act-out, as a problem-solving technique or a solution seeker
to their problems. It’s a common case for any child to blow tantrums or feel
frustrated when things don’t turn their way, but it’s a rare case when parents
let go of such scenarios or not give in to their child's demand every time or let them
act out in public.
So, how to get
around the “Child Blackmailing”?!!!
When
Children throw tantrums, staying silent and calm, helps us to bring their voice lowered to zero. Let us think like them and look for reasons behind
their misbehavior.
Children become
more arrogant if they feel that they aren’t being heard. For our kids to listen
to us, we have to be willing to listen to them first.
While being materialistic
with our children makes them happy on a temporary basis, maintaining a strong emotional
connect with our children makes them feel good and tranquil to discuss their
problems and demands with us. Addressing to their needs properly and promptly
and making them feel an important part of the house keeps them happy at
all times.
Sometimes,
it is necessary to negotiate with our children.
A big “YES or NO” need
not be the right approach, rather talking to them with choice to select from can
make a Big Difference in the behavior of our Children.
“At
the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the
positive involvement of parents” – Jane D.Hull
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